Why in the world would someone go out of their way to defend that guy?
Good lord, I get it, the dude is hot, but… seriously? He may have not killed his "pup" directly, but sweet tapdancing mother of broccoli, the whole story is morbid as hell.
how is that guy "hot" ?
He looks good, but, you know. Murder and psychological abuse. That's kind of a turn-off for me.
he looks like a gigantic baby with a beard tbh
but each to their own
his character for sure is disgusting and he should rot in hell
While always-on d/s relationships can easily go wrong, there are some examples out there of pup relationships done right: there's this guy called Kristofer Weston, for example, and his pup called Pup Amp, one half of the kink education channel Watts the Safeword, and both seem to be doing really well over a years-long relationship.
The problem in this case isn't that N&B genuinely attempted BDSM, but that he has been deliberately abusing men while pretending to be engaging in BDSM without any of the fundamental notions of mutual respect, consent, and reciprocity. He is an abuser pretending to be a kinkster, and what I think faults the kink community around him is the lack of scrutiny that went on: thankfully, the BDSM community at large seems to have dropped him like the sack of shit that he is, but for a time he was a part of the scene, even as he was abusing (and ultimately killing) people. It's a reminder that people practicing kink should vet the people in their community carefully, even if they still want to be welcoming, and should probably look for signs of stuff like psychopathy, sociopathy, or narcissistic personality disorder, the latter of which Dylan clearly seems to have.
Also, I should probably be the last person on Earth to defend Chiri, but he actually did condemn N&B. He did go on to shit on all of BDSM indiscriminately, which ended up with me and him getting into the shitfest that was the bearlebrity/bdsm thread argument, then him going off the rails, but at least he wasn't on Dylan's side.