Example one: My ideal husband is Rowan. He's a goofy gentle giant whose outgoing and good with his hands.
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Example two: Rowan's the "gentle giant" type. Despite being bigger than the other kids, he'd get bullied a lot because he never fought back. He had to transfer school as a result.
He knew that things would be the same if nothing was done. So he decided to use size to his advantage. Rowan debuted at this new school as "the kid you don't want to mess with". He'd played the big, tough guy and scared away the bullies. This almost worked.
A boy picked a fight with Rowan one day, just to see if he was as tough as he claimed. Despite his aversion to violence, despite not wanting to do it, he had to make an example out of this boy. He would use the victory as a deterrent for future provokations. To his surprise, Rowan didn't need to put much effort into it. One swing of his heavy fist was enough to get the point across and deliver a serious head injury. He was afraid of his own strength and the act of hurting another person devastated him. He put on a good front all the way to his bedroom where he cried throughout the night.
In the end, the plan worked too well. People kept him at an arm's length of of fear, making companionship virtually impossible. He was stuck. Keeping things as they are would lead to loneliness. While being the big marshmallow he really is would lead to being hurt again. He realized no one like him either way.
Rowan now lives his life as a mechanic in the countryside. With the help of his new boyfriend, he was able to drop the old act and be the kind, gentle person he once was.